We have all heard the phrase, "They have such a harmonious relationship." For me this conjures up the vision of a flowing melody in which the notes blend together to form beautiful music to my ears. I feel "invited in" and want to hear more.
I believe composing a relationship is like composing a musical melody. In both cases, the song begins with a composer (a self), who is inspired to sit down and write certain musical notes that have come to mind. The first draft may not be the exact piece s/he hears, but s/he revises, (maybe several times), and finally it becomes the composition s/he has envisioned.
Now in order for this process to happen, several things have to be in place! First, the composer has to have a good, working understanding of music and composition. S/he probably studied with competent teachers for years to develop the skills and tools to be able to compose and create harmonious music on her or his own.
When you stop to think about, aren't these the same steps it takes to create a harmonious relationship, first with yourself, and then others? I say Yes!
The question is, whether we're composing music or a harmonious relationship, did we get adequate training to give us the competence to compose great harmonies?
Sadly, in the case of relationship, most of us didn't! We weren't able to choose the teachers who knew how to give us the skills needed for good relationship composing skills. We simply absorbed and learned what there was there to learn. On an intuitive level, we just wanted to be loved and to feel safe. And In fact, we still do. It is so basic to our harmonious and complete well being.
I believe that anyone can learn to compose or create a harmonious relationship. It isn't rocket science. Who doesn't want a loving, harmonious relationship? It's this kind of relationship that nurtures your heart, mind and body.
In fact, it's music to your hearts and souls.
Maeve and Orv Fry
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