Can We Talk?
Communicating Your Truth
Why is it difﬁcult to say the things we really want to say?
Why do we hesitate the say the vulnerable things, the challenging things, even the kind things?
How often do you think to yourself, "I was only trying to help," or "I didn't say that because I
didn't want to hurt your feelings," or "I wanted to avoid confrontation."
And when we do talk to our partner, or even friends and family, it seems to come out wrong.
They misunderstand you, they feel hurt or attacked.
You feel misunderstood, hurt and attacked.
And if you simply withhold your feelings, to stay safe,
you build a wall between you and your partner, your friend or your family.
The ﬁrst thing it takes is courage and the willingness to risk.
Yes, it is a risk to tell your truth.
There is never a guarantee that someone won't be hurt.
But, think of the upside.
You have the possibility of being loved for all of who you are...
And with the truth, every one is empowered to act in the most appropriate and loving way.
Your truth can change day to day, moment to moment. Thats OK!
Your feelings are your ﬁrst and best clue to what your truth is in any given moment.
Pay attention, look inside, take plenty of time and ask yourself, "What is my truth in this situation?"
You don't have to be right or make sense or be able to justify yourself.
Once you get in touch with your truth,
You will need skills to say it, so you can be
heard, validated and loved.
Stay tuned from some simple skills for loving, effective communication!
Maeve and Orv Fry
WHO ARE MAEVE & ORV FRY?