Ok, more about "Life Scripts", as I promised yesterday.
These automatic behaviors or reactions are unconscious and happen faster than the speed of thought.
and especially under stress,
you are fighting with your partner, withdrawing, controlling, anxious...you name it.
And, as much as you affirm that you won't go there again, it happens.
The Cause is simple.
As a small child, all you really wanted was
to feel loved and safe.
Well, didn't you?
So,how any of us came from functional, loving families?
So,the only thing we can do is to create stategies
To feel Loved and Safe.
These strategies may have worked pretty well when we were little.
What were yours?
Mine, some of them, were to be a really good girl,
Stuff my anger and hurt, and become an underground rebel.
Here's the thing...these strategies don't leave you.
They stay with you and surface in your relationships.
Then you wonder why you are not getting the love you want and deserve,
And, hey, what's wrong with your partner, who
By the way, has their own unconscious Life Scripts.
If only they would change,
your life would be so much better.
(And,have you ever noticed that we somehow attract partners whose Life Scripts work perfectly with
Well, Here is the GOOD NEWS!
We don't get new issues...
Ever think about that?
No new issues,no new life scripts.
So, there IS hope!
We can't erase them,
But we can recognize them
And turn the volume way down.
We can head them off at the pass.
ACE...Accept. Change Or Eliminate.
Personally, I go for change!
What you can't see or feel,
You can't change or heal.
Here's the shameless Promotion:
We teach this stuff.
See our page, Relationship Igniters.
Be well, be Loved, feel safe.
You deserve It!
Maeve and Orv Fry
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